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Are woman only meant to do laundry?

Mansi works as an HR manager and is a mother of 6 year old Riya. While coming back from office she picks up Riya from her crèche ,she promptly said,”Mom, please prepare Noodles for me today,I am fed up with daily Roti Sabji.” “Ok! sweetie,sure”. Meanwhile her husband Ashish called her, ”Mansi ,please prepare something special ,my friends are coming up” . So many things were going on in her mind. She went to buy vegetables and other eatables required. After coming back home, she found the house was in total mess, maid had taken leave and all the utensils were kept unwashed. “Oh God!! guests are to come, what I am to do now?”.

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Ashish had carelessly thrown his all clothes on bed and his wet towel was lying on sofa. She had told him so many times to atleast put his towel outside after taking bath, but he just throws it on sofa. She quickly washed utensils, prepared food and cleaned her house .Finally,the door bell rang and she ran to welcome the guests. Ashish and guests came and sat comfortably on sofa. She was moving from kitchen to dining room and dining room to kitchen to serve guests. Ashish was comfortably sitting and chatting with his friends, how could he get up and help his wife, what would people say and after all it was women’s job. It was 12 at night, guests had gone, Ashish retired to sleep and she was still left with dozens of tasks to do. She had to assemble things in place, prepare lunch box and dress of her children and husband for the other day. On weekends,she washes the clothes of the whole week for everybody in the family,because after all laundry was never meant to be husband’s job.This way she has to struggle day and night with the burden of two jobs.

This is not only the story of Mansi but of many other women and can be seen in almost every second household where working women are burdened with two jobs.  According to a survey by Ariel , 85% of women feel they have two jobs , one at work and another at home. Capture

 

An another survey also shows that 76% men feel that laundry is a woman’s job.

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Now the question is ,why is there an inequality between men and women within the household, while India is working towards equal opportunities for all at the workplace? How long will Indian men continue to be “patidev” or “God of wife” ?

Our Indian culture is such that although in our households a daughter and son are given equal education but daughters need to learn all household work and sons are not even taught to pick their plates after having food, they are taught that these household chores are only a girls duty.This faulty Indian mentality brings them to a conclusion that women are meant to perform their tasks . They feel ashamed helping their wives.

But times have changed now, men must understand that women have enough pressure and burden when she works, he must support her to share that burden, otherwise she will break. He should understand that when woman is sharing her financial burden then why can’t he help her sometimes in household chores .Not only husbands,even the kids must be taught that its their duty to perform their tasks on their own and help their mothers too.

 “I am writing for #IsLaundryOnlyAWomansJob activity at BlogAdda.com in association with Ariel.”

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My mother-an inspiration

In a patriarchal society like ours, a women’s life decisions are always influenced by the society in which she lives. She has to take up a career not according to her passion but what is acceptable in society and that could increase her prospect of getting a good husband. She has to marry a person that is accepted by her parents and relatives and then later in life she has to live a life according to her kids. Her whole life actually doesn’t belong to her. Her dreams, passions are actually crushed under the heavy compromises she has to make in every sphere of her life.

But amidst all that there are women who take a stand and make a choice to fulfill their dream , not a compromise. They refuse to choose between being a mother and a career woman , they say we can be a good mother as well as a good employee. They are the ones who set inspiration for other women to fight for their dreams.

One such woman in my life is my mother. She was a Hindi teacher in school but had to leave her job to takTEC_9767e care of me and my brother and the pressure from her in-laws. She was the most educated lady in her town and at that period of time very few girls had any career goal. As other women my mother had to choose between being a mother OR being a self-dependent woman. But that didn’t deter her aim of chasing her dreams. She always believed that a woman should be self-dependent and has the ability to support her family financially too. She decided to be an entrepreneur and started her own business of a beauty clinic, so that she can have a good work-life balance. At that period of time , in small town the beauty clinics were not regarded as a very good profession and was treated like a barber shop. Many of our relatives discouraged her for this type of business and many made fun of her too .They said it’s not a very honorable job. But my mother believed that no profession is small or big, its honorable job as its making her self-dependent. She stood strong amidst all odds and didn’t give heed to what people said and what was acceptable in society or not, she just listened to her heart and this is due to her firm and bold step that even with a less salary package of my father and burden of home loan we were brought up in a way that we never felt any shortage of money. And at the same time she gave us her full attention too.

She is an inspiration for others that a woman doesn’t have to crush her dreams to be a good mother, she is not meant to sacrifice and make compromises all the time and doesn’t have to live life according to “what people say”. The journey of my mother from OR to AND might be difficult but today she can proudly say “I am a good mother And a good wife And an entrepreneur”.

This post is a part of #UseYourAnd activity at BlogAdda in association with Gillette Venus“.

Gillette Venus and BlogAdda want you to break out of the shackles of OR and embrace the AND within you.They want every women to celebrate the sum of everything you want to be AND can be.Watch this video-

 

 

What defines me is being “True to Myself”

“The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul”.

Every woman has some things that she is passionate about, things that make her who she is.  She is a daughter,sister,wife or mother. No matter what role she plays ,she is defined by a multitude of things which makes her perfect in her own sense. She is the one who is known to be better than son, she is the one who bears a child and gives life, she is the one who can smile in all odds, she is the one who lifts her child in every difficult circumstances. Beauty of a woman grows with passing years,she is groomed day by day by the circumstances she faces.The things that define me besides the labels of a daughter,sister,wife or a mother were added to my personality day by day and are being added as I grow.I would like to share some of them.

1.Positivity-It is very important for me that I start my day with Yoga and meditation.This keeps me positive throughout the day and re energizes my body.I feel life is balanced and have the faith and strength to fight in every circumstances.It has become a very integral and important part of my life.

2.Planning-I plan my day such that I can devote my precious time to each and every important thing in my life.This is important as at the end of the day I feel happy and satisfied .I believe that like a child I have a milestone to achieve daily which makes me grow day by day.Planning relieves me of all worries and I become a good Home manager too.

3.Creativity-I think creative thinking rejuvenates your mind and fills your life with surprises.I apply creativity in cooking which makes my family enjoy their meals daily,I apply creativity in playing with my daughter which helps her learn things naturally.Creativity at work has brought me lots of accolades too and my writings and poems have got me praises and love from many.

4.Passion-I believe one is dead without a passion in life.My passion for reading and writing keeps me happy even when I am all alone.They are my lifelong friends with no expectations.

5.Compassion-I feel a great satisfaction in doing something for the underprivileged small kids around me.I believe they are the stars which have lost their lights under poverty.I just sometimes devote some time with them and celebrate me or my kid’s birthday with them.I gift my family with this “Joy of Giving“.

 

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Celebrating Birthday with underprivileged kids

6.Sense of Humor-It is truly said that “Just see the funnier side of life and there is no problem”. With the gift of “sense of humor”,people tend to enjoy my company and I too enjoy life.

I believe the true identity of a woman is not only being a successful doctor or engineer,its about being a woman of your dreams,where you can stand and firmly say,”Yes!this is is what I wanted to be” and on the death bed you have no regrets of not living your life to the fullest.My life shouldn’t be defined by others,my identity should be set  by my own set of dreams.This is what truly defines me “True to myself”.

This post is a part of #UseYourAnd activity at BlogAdda in association with Gillette Venus“.

When Papa became a Hero

I am Rashi. Me and my husband Rakshit have a sweet little daughter Ananya, who is 5 years old. She is a total Papa’s pampered daughter .Ananya is just a sweet little angel!!!! But in this small age she has the wisdom of an elderly and that’s why people around had to think twice before speaking to her.She has a big mouth which could leave one embarrassed in any situation.

It was Sunday evening and we came back after watching movie “Haider”. Rakshit was quiet influenced by Shahid’s looks and told me that he wants to look like Shahid Kapoor in the movie “Haider” .HaiderShahid

So he decided that he won’t shave now and asked about my views. I said ,”It’s ok, its your decision , but don’t be in a false conception that you are going to get Katrina or Kareena”. We duo burst out in laughter.

Rakshit got so obsessed with his idea of growing beard that he used to admire himself daily in the mirror as if he was near to becoming a Bollywood star. Ananya somehow didn’t like his beard.Earlier they used to rub their cheeks with each other ,kissed each other,but now Ananya used to run away from him saying papa has become a cactus.After few days Ananya stopped going near Rakshit.Though,Rakshit had started feeling bad about it, but he was much more engrossed in his dream of becoming a hero .One day Ananya came to us telling that there was Annual Day celebration in her school and parents were invited. She had participated in a mono acting competition.

Rakshit had grown his cactus fully.I told Rakshit to please shave and come back to his normal looks and we had to attend Ananya’s annual function also. Meanwhile Ananya came and told Rakshit”Papa please don’t come to my Annual day with this cactus look,my friends will tease me”.

Rakshit felt quite upset, he had to make a choice between his daughter and his passion.He thought about it for whole night and finally decided to shave and attend her daughters function,though his heart was sunken inside.

On the annual day,Mamma and Papa reached to see their little child perform.Rashi was quiet excited but Rakshit seemed to be in a lost world.Ananya presented her Mono acting and her theme was “Love for Papa”. Rakshit had tears in his eyes after watching her little daughter , his heart was melting and the remorse of shaving was slowly getting washed away. After the act, Rakshit ran to the stage and hugged his daughter, the whole audience applauded.He felt that though he could not become Shahid kapoor but he had become a Hero in the eyes of her daughter,that feeling was just greater than any other feeling.The judges declared Ananaya as the winner and Raksit was honored as most well groomed father in the audience.The three had their family pic with the trophy and that picture still reminds me when a well groomed look ensured that they struck gold on an opportunity given to them.

This post is a part of #WillYouShave activity at BlogAdda in association with Gillette