My mother-an inspiration

In a patriarchal society like ours, a women’s life decisions are always influenced by the society in which she lives. She has to take up a career not according to her passion but what is acceptable in society and that could increase her prospect of getting a good husband. She has to marry a person that is accepted by her parents and relatives and then later in life she has to live a life according to her kids. Her whole life actually doesn’t belong to her. Her dreams, passions are actually crushed under the heavy compromises she has to make in every sphere of her life.

But amidst all that there are women who take a stand and make a choice to fulfill their dream , not a compromise. They refuse to choose between being a mother and a career woman , they say we can be a good mother as well as a good employee. They are the ones who set inspiration for other women to fight for their dreams.

One such woman in my life is my mother. She was a Hindi teacher in school but had to leave her job to takTEC_9767e care of me and my brother and the pressure from her in-laws. She was the most educated lady in her town and at that period of time very few girls had any career goal. As other women my mother had to choose between being a mother OR being a self-dependent woman. But that didn’t deter her aim of chasing her dreams. She always believed that a woman should be self-dependent and has the ability to support her family financially too. She decided to be an entrepreneur and started her own business of a beauty clinic, so that she can have a good work-life balance. At that period of time , in small town the beauty clinics were not regarded as a very good profession and was treated like a barber shop. Many of our relatives discouraged her for this type of business and many made fun of her too .They said it’s not a very honorable job. But my mother believed that no profession is small or big, its honorable job as its making her self-dependent. She stood strong amidst all odds and didn’t give heed to what people said and what was acceptable in society or not, she just listened to her heart and this is due to her firm and bold step that even with a less salary package of my father and burden of home loan we were brought up in a way that we never felt any shortage of money. And at the same time she gave us her full attention too.

She is an inspiration for others that a woman doesn’t have to crush her dreams to be a good mother, she is not meant to sacrifice and make compromises all the time and doesn’t have to live life according to “what people say”. The journey of my mother from OR to AND might be difficult but today she can proudly say “I am a good mother And a good wife And an entrepreneur”.

This post is a part of #UseYourAnd activity at BlogAdda in association with Gillette Venus“.

Gillette Venus and BlogAdda want you to break out of the shackles of OR and embrace the AND within you.They want every women to celebrate the sum of everything you want to be AND can be.Watch this video-

 

 

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5 thoughts on “My mother-an inspiration

  1. Dear Ruchika

    Thanks for sharing ur thoughts nd experiences as a woman……sharing our personel stories nd experiences helps to promote awareness and understanding the complex issues of gender.

  2. Hi Ruchika,

    This is such a wonderful post, straight from the heart. Kudos to her for coming up with the innovative idea of a beauty parlour so many years ago! It only shows her courage, determination and far-sightedness. Please convey my regards to the remarkable lady 🙂

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